“The most difficult part of our stories is often what we bring to them –what we make up about who we are and how we are perceived by others.” Brené Brown
Ever want to make someone feel as bad as they made you feel? Do you numb or stockpile the hurt? Are you a ticking time bomb of unresolved emotions?
I received an advanced copy (available August 25, 2015) of Brené Brown’s book, Rising Strong – The Reckoning, The Rumble, The Revolution, a book that reforms the way we explore consequences of our choices during professional failures and personal heartbreaks that rearrange our lives.
Brown’s powerful book is filled with examples of stories we tend to create when we are faced with challenging moments driven by emotions and an immediate need to self-protect in not well-thought-out ways. You will recognize yourself in many of these stories.
I often use the phrase, “I don’t know what I don’t know,” which is so true of the Rising Strong process. You don’t know what you don’t know until you uncover this knowledge using Brown’s process.
What Brown taught me in Rising Strong is that my stories consist of blaming, tripping over the same issues again and again, shaming myself, stewing in judgement, and creating conspiracy theories. Sound familiar?
WHAT IS THE RISING STRONG PROCESS?
The Rising Strong Process consists of:
– Reckoning; walking into our story
– Rumbling; owning our story
– Revolutionizing; incremental revolutionary change
WHY SHOULD I USE THE RISING STRONG PROCESS?
Brown shares a powerful personal story about how she healed using her own Rising Strong Process after wanting to make someone feel as bad as they made her feel.
Brown’s personal Rising Strong process teaches us how to become aware of all the choices that unfold in front of us during moments of discomfort and hurt.
The Rising Strong Process is a great way to recognize who we really are versus who we think we are intellectually, physically and emotionally.
WHAT’S SO SPECIAL ABOUT THE RISING STRONG PROCESS?
The Rising Strong Process is Brown’s way of looking back in order to move forward.
Rising Strong provides specific examples and a script to guide us through great questions to ask ourselves during our introspective journey to Rise Strong.
Not only does Brown’s process work for personal, parenting and business issues, it also provides an avenue for discovery as a creativity process for businesses and entrepreneurs.
Use your “facedown” moments (as Brown calls our upsetting stories) like getting fired, losing a business, team failure, fighting with a friend, finding out about an affair, etc., as a way to face our emotions and transform them for a more whole-hearted life.
As Brown says, “We can’t rise strong when we’re on the run.”
Does your story matter? Just breathe and “in you must go.”